Emotional Integrity – Girlfriends in God


July 10, 2019

Emotional Integrity

Mary Southerland

In the present day’s Reality

Like a metropolis whose partitions are damaged down is a person who lacks self-control (Proverbs 25:28, NIV).

Buddy to Buddy

It’s not sufficient to acknowledge the presence of damaging feelings, and even perceive why they exist. We should take motion. If we don’t, damaging feelings will take management.

Many people are imprisoned by emotions of inferiority, and the outcomes are all the time disastrous. Constructive criticism is perceived as an emotional assault. Jealousy burgeons as others obtain the accolades we desperately crave. Selections are made, and a course of life is decided in order that fragile egos are fed, excluding God’s plan and goal. Comparability reigns as a false idol, trying to validate price and success. Inferiority crosses over to satisfaction and sin reigns. 

Feelings might be like runaway horses. You might be trampled by a buddy with a hidden agenda, kicked within the intestine by a member of the family, thrown by the lies of a trusted co-worker, or crushed by a scarcity of integrity in these in authority over you. Feelings can simply stampede uncontrolled and into sin. 

The success of emotional integrity lies within the one who holds the reins. We should continuously select to give up each emotion to the supernatural management of God. The Holy Spirit empowers that selection, produces management, and transforms emotional bondage into emotional freedom. Studying to manage damaging feelings is a vital life lesson and one we have to grasp.

The individuals round us wish to see what occurs when life pushes our buttons. Whereas God created us with the capability for feelings, it’s our accountability to manage them as a substitute of permitting them to manage us.

When Jesus noticed moneychangers desecrating the temple of God, He was livid! But, He modeled the proper technique to harness feelings and use them for good. I’ve heard many Bible academics and preachers try to melt the response of Jesus, however the reality is – He was irate! I can virtually see His face shrouded in plain previous fury as He contemplated His choices. If I had been in His place, I can let you know that these depraved males would have been toast! However earlier than Jesus confronted the intruders, He stepped apart to braid a whip – not as a result of He had accomplished “Whip Braiding 101,” however as a result of He was taking the time to harness His feelings. Jesus then used that harnessed anger to drive the moneychangers out of the temple, correcting a improper. 

We select the place to speculate each ounce of emotional vitality we possess. Like Jesus, we should be taught to speculate properly, with a purpose to reap the advantages of wholesome feelings, harnessed and skilled by godly self-discipline. 

Emotional chapter is just too typically liable for the destruction of a life. We should deliberately monitor emotional withdrawals and the influence they may have on our lives. There are actually emotional withdrawals which can be good, proper and ordained by God. I’ll always remember the evening we discovered a damaged and defeated younger pastor standing at our entrance door. With tears streaming down his face, John instructed us that his spouse was having an affair and needed a divorce. Sure that his ministry was doomed, this treasured and gifted servant poured out his ache and defeat. For months, Dan and I ministered to this stellar younger man, loving him, encouraging him, making him a part of our household whereas he tried desperately to avoid wasting his marriage. 

When it turned clear that his spouse was decided to depart him, we repeatedly assured John that God would as soon as once more use him for Kingdom work. In the present day, that when damaged younger man is married to a stupendous, godly lady who adores him. They’ve three unimaginable kids and the church he now pastors is exploding in development and altering lives. The time and vitality we poured into John was a worthy emotional funding and one in all our biggest blessings in ministry.

Nonetheless, some emotional deposits will not be good, proper, wholesome or God-ordained. Life is jam-packed with lifeless locations during which to speculate emotional vitality.

We have to continuously test our emotional steadiness, guarding the emotional withdrawals we enable and diligently making constant emotional deposits. Prayer, solitude, Bible research, friendships, service, accountability, and a guarded thought life are just some of the deposits that may make the distinction between emotional well being and emotional chapter. Emotional imbalance happens after we function in our personal power, doing our “personal factor” as a substitute of wholly relying upon God and residing within the parameters of His will. Once we rely on His power, goal and energy, the Father deposits every part we have to accomplish each good work He created us to do. 

Let’s Pray

Father, I reward You for giving me the present of feelings. Assist me learn to handle and management these feelings in order that they’re belongings as a substitute of liabilities. I wish to turn out to be a godly lady of self-discipline, however I can’t even begin that journey with out Your energy. I select to spend time in Your Phrase and in prayer. I submit my feelings to You and ask that You employ them in my life for Your glory.

In Jesus’ Title,


Now It’s Your Flip

Take a couple of minutes to make a listing of the highest 5 emotional responses widespread in your life. Which emotion do you expertise most?

Beside every emotion, write one behavior you’ll be able to incorporate into your life that can allow you to manage that emotion.

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