Backstory: My now spouse and I acquired collectively in 2013. Throughout that point, I launched her to one in all my good good friend (Feminine), who after just a few months, launched my spouse to her different group of feminine associates. My spouse, together with the large group of associates, would plan “women night time out” journey, which incorporates going to Vegas (or different locations) yearly, and dinners a pair occasions a 12 months. The primary time my spouse went with these women to Vegas, there was solely about 6 women, solely one in all whom she hadn’t met. Now the group has slowly expanded yearly to 12 women. These yearly journeys have now been happening since 2014, and my spouse has attended most of them.
Quick ahead to now, we’re each 29 and married. Certainly one of her greatest man associates has invited me on a visit to Vegas, with a bunch of his associates who I’ve by no means met earlier than. He has a historical past of not being devoted to his companions, however aside from that he is a beautiful individual. I’ve by no means actually been invited to group occasions, so I believed I can take this chance to make some new associates and exit of my consolation zone. Sadly, my spouse is uncomfortable with this as a result of she thinks we’re too outdated to go to Vegas with individuals I am principally not conversant in. I do not see it that manner. My reasoning is that regardless that I used to be uncomfortable with the issues she was doing (clubbing, strip golf equipment, and many others), I bit my tongue as a result of I trusted her and did not need to limit her from having enjoyable.
Her argument is that she was younger at 23 when she began going to Vegas and he or she already knew the women (four out of 5) earlier than going. Now she goes with the identical group of ladies (established in 2015, when she was 25). Of the 12 women, four are married, three are married with children, 5 are in a long run relationship. She says that our scenario is just not the identical, as a result of we at the moment are married and our focus shouldn’t be going to Vegas to social gathering with random guys that now we have by no means met, particularly with a bunch of men (together with the untrue one) that I have no idea, and he or she doesn’t belief.
Now, I by no means had an issue along with her going out with the group of ladies. I wasn’t essentially the most outgoing individual after I was youthful, so attending group occasions wasn’t one thing I did. Now that I am older and a bit extra social, I discover it simpler to get out of my consolation zone and meet new individuals (possibly even make some new associates alongside the way in which). Remember that I’d by no means jeopardize my relationship with my spouse over two nights in Vegas. I’ve and all the time can be devoted, and use my greatest judgement in any circumstances.
Reddit, what do you make of this case? Does my spouse have some extent for me to not go on this journey? Or is it inside cause for me to go?
TL;DR – Spouse goes on yearly Vegas journeys along with her associates beginning at 23, and acquired upset after I needed to go on a guys journey with guys I do not actually know at 29 as a result of she believes it is not the identical scenario.