We’ve been collectively for nearly 10 years now. Nearly 2 years in the past I moved throughout nation with him for him to go to grad faculty. Now that he’s graduated, me transferring to a different state with him for a brand new job is now on the desk. Final night time I sat down with him and simply introduced up my issues with transferring once more and wished to listen to his issues/ how job searching was going. On the finish of the dialog, I introduced up how apprehensive I used to be once more about transferring to a different state with him. I introduced up how we have now by no means actually had a dialog about marriage and the way all I wished to listen to from him is that there’s a dedication from him earlier than I transfer with him once more. I advised him I used to be NOT anticipating/wanting him to suggest earlier than the transfer and even within the subsequent yr or two. Had been younger, and never totally financially steady but, so I actually am in no rush. I advised him I simply wished to know if he’s totally dedicated and he is aware of he needs to marry me sooner or later. He couldn’t inform me that. After I completed speaking, we simply sat in silence for two minutes as a result of he didn’t say something. At that time I began to panic and advised him that him not saying something was worrying me. All he might say was “properly I consider in us” “I don’t need you to fret about it” “I imply I do need to be with you endlessly” and saved repeating that he believes in us. Didn’t say one phrase about marriage or letting me know he needs to even marry me. At that time I couldn’t assist however cry and go to mattress. He didn’t examine on me or say the rest.
Am I overreacting? He did say “he needs to be with me endlessly” but it surely wasn’t too convincing.
At this level I’m unsure what to assume/do/say to him. I’m simply bummed and need some opinions from this.
TLDR: Been with boyfriend for nearly 10 years. Earlier than transferring to a different state once more, requested boyfriend if he needs to marry me sooner or later and he couldn’t inform me.