She was the daughter of a single mom, but then gained a frustrating stepdad. At 17, she met her birth dad only to watch him stroll back out of her life. And then there’s her sister, who dealt with extreme depression and brought comparison and jealousy into the image. In brief, Jessie Minassian‘s loved ones is messed up (sound familiar?). But when Jessie was in her 20s, her mom was diagnosed with cancer, and her point of view on loved ones changed. She shares what she considers to be the secret to loving our households effectively by way of confusing, shifting relationships.