We all watched final evening as Arie mentioned goodbye to fair-haired Lauren and popped the query to “Better option Becca”. Most of us cheered, as Becca seemed to be the total package. Fairly, match, intelligent, and as her nevertheless infatuated ex-boyfriend pointed out, “a girl with a heart of gold.” Who could ask for far more? Apparently Arie. The confusing point to numerous viewers is, he appears to be opting for much less. Even though Lauren is wonderful and definitely sweet, she does not appear to have the standard conversational abilities that most folks have. Type of challenging to envision increasing old with somebody that does not have substantially to say about …well, something.
So why make the trade? If Arie could see his future with each ladies, why abruptly make a decision that the 1 he committed to, the 1 he could speak and laugh with for hours, the 1 he mentioned he’d by no means be bored by, is not the 1 he desires? As a dating and partnership coach, I answer concerns like this all the time. I’m asked by customers coming off their personal break-up, why would their man abruptly throw away a superior point? The “why” behind a split is incredibly vital when it comes to closure, for the reason that if you do not have a explanation that tends to make sense to you, it can take months or years to come across peace and move on. Considering that all of us do not want to invest months (God forbid years) wrestling with the Ari-Becca-Lauren triangle, I’ll go ahead and inform you my two cents on why items went down this way. None of which you will hear tonight when Arie tries to clarify himself.
This Is Arie
I think Arie did fall for each Becca and Lauren. But, as I told my husband, if he met Becca on his personal, they would have dated for a though and then ended up parting strategies. She was by no means going to be the girl for him lengthy term for the reason that Arie is not a guy with a sturdy character, or a lot of self-assurance (each of which Becca has.) Positive, he could be a former race automobile driver, and for a spell that most likely gave him an ego increase, but now he’s out of that company, and as Arie himself place it, “he is just a guy that barely graduated higher college and worked at Pizza Hut (no offense Pizza Hut.) He is just not a “solid” guy. He’s a guy with doubts about himself and getting coupled up with a ladies that is so self-assured and strong on her personal does not aid give him his increase back. And that is what he’s hunting for. He desires the girl that appears at him as if she’s struck gold, the girl that will not challenge him, the girl who thinks anything he says or does is certainly correct and best for the reason that it soothes his personal insecurities. With Becca they would be equal partners, and he’d rather be Lauren’s savior.
Let me be crystal clear on 1 point right here prior to I leave you, even though. I do think that Becca would have ultimately grown frustrated and dissatisfied with Arie. Right after a couple of years collectively, she would have ended up wearing the pants in that partnership and I do not assume that is what she eventually envisions for herself. So, though she could be heartbroken now, I am confident that she will come across a man that is substantially improved suited for her. And to any single girls reading this considering that you have to play dumb or be a “yes girl” to get a guy, that is not the lesson right here. Males appreciate intelligent, confident ladies (case in point, Arie PICKED and PROPOSED to Becca initial!) This is just what occurred right here with these 3 folks and why Arie did what he did. In the finish, he’s creating the correct selection for himself now. He and Lauren will most likely get engaged and reside happily ever soon after.