I Never Trust Girls – SolvingMe


I admit I do not trust ladies and feminine power as lengthy as I can keep in mind.

My tipping point was when I was hurt by my close female good friends in higher college.

So a lot so that I seriously contemplated suicide.

Crazy huh?

It was the only time in my life I ever believed about that.

It was the finish of Year 10 – I was 15 years old.

I hung out with a bunch of girls whom I believed I was extremely close to.

1 of my girlfriends Jemima had been in appreciate with a guy for a whilst.

He created it clear he wasn’t interested in her.

So she got herself a boyfriend – a critical a single, according to her.

I became good friends with this guy she was in appreciate with by possibility.

We’d speak, we connected on a lot of points.

She knew about it.

It wasn’t a large deal.

She kept telling me I could date him if I wanted.

Up till then we have been strictly good friends for the reason that loyalty ideal?

She had feelings for him so he was off limits.

I wasn’t certain if we even believed of every single other as much more than good friends.

But after the choice became offered, we became closer.

I suppose he was into me from the starting.

We met up – we kissed.

I fell for him – challenging.

I got on a telephone contact with yet another girlfriend – gushing, I told her all the things.

I asked her not to inform Jemima for the reason that I wanted to inform her in particular person, just in case she nevertheless had feelings.

Simply because loyalty.

Simply because I nevertheless wanted to make certain it was okay.

And of course, my other pal tells Jemima.

And she’s pissed.

I didn’t know about this till a lot later.

At the time, I had larger difficulties.

I was possessing problems at household.

I decided to leave and move in with my cousin.

A lot of feelings have been operating by way of me at the time.

I felt scared of my future.

I felt vulnerable.

I was in appreciate for the initial time.

I had just gained independence.

But I was excited to have manage of my life.

Till the subsequent day I got a text from this guy I was in appreciate with saying he wanted to cool points off.


I had no notion why or what to make of it.

He didn’t clarify. Just that there have been a lot of drama that he didn’t want to be a aspect of.

I didn’t realize.

I got invited buying with my girlfriends the subsequent day.

I believed, “This is terrific – I can speak to my pal about what had happened”.

I got there and promptly realised I was in large problems.

All the girls iced me out.

Passive aggressiveness, snide comments, laughing at me – you name it.

I was so hurt and confused.

Why did they invite me out then?

I keep in mind searching down from the 5th floor of the Parramatta buying centre and seriously contemplating the jump to my death.

Would I die or would I just seriously hurt myself?

I stared down to the bottom for what felt like a lengthy time.

Till my cousin located me.

I told him I wanted to get out of there.

I cried to him – a lot for the duration of this time.

I’m tearing up ideal now just pondering about this.

The discomfort was immense.

I felt abandoned.

I felt alone.

I felt a hole in my heart.

Why did they treat me like that?

Even if Jemima hadn’t told them the complete story about generally asking me to date him, I couldn’t realize.

How could they not ask me my side of the story just before performing some thing like that?

Did our years of friendship imply nothing at all?


The girls closest to me hurt me the most.

I can nevertheless keep in mind their facial expressions.

I had under no circumstances definitely had a terrific partnership with ladies in my life to commence with.

My mum and I only not too long ago got closer.

So soon after this incident, I was clear I do not trust ladies.

With secrets.

With my life.

With my heart.

I was hurt.

So I spent a lot of time about masculine power.

I learnt guys have a tendency to inform you what they feel.

There’s no physique language cues I require to be conscious of.

I can loosen up about guys and not have to feel so challenging.

More than the years I became jaded and intolerant of women’s concerns.

The indecisiveness.

The drama.

The difficulties that shouldn’t be taking place.

I would internally roll my eyes at some of the stories I would hear.

Not in any apparent way.

I nevertheless had female good friends.

But I could under no circumstances completely open up to them like I could with the guys.

This was the norm for me.

Till some thing shocking happened…

I learnt there was a tiny girl inside me that wanted to be feminine.

She wanted to play.

She didn’t want to be logical, intelligent and with each other.

I had to let her out.

And what came with this was the drama, the indecisiveness and the self destruction.

What I learnt was that this incident that occurred when I was 15yo triggered my to deprive myself of all the things that was awesome about me.

Anything that created me a lady.

Considering that them it is been a understanding expertise.

These days I’ve learnt to Adore hanging out with girls.

I crave the power.

I commit significantly less time at entrepreneur events and coworking spaces about masculine power.

I appreciate hanging out with my girlfriends whom brings out the girly teenage power.

I appreciate hanging out with my girlfriends that bring out the raw, womanly power.

I appreciate it all – even navigating by way of the physique language and unsaid words.

It is so challenging to communicate how stunning the ladies in my life are.

I appreciate all the things about them.

The permit me the freedom of acquiring my personal power.

They give me stomach stitching laughter.

To appreciate the beauty in the hot mess.

To not require to be logical all the time.

To have feelings that require to be expressed, superior or undesirable.

Thank you for all of it.

I would under no circumstances have been total devoid of this.


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