five Habits That Steal Your Joy


As vital as it is to know what habits assistance us to practical experience joy, it is just as vital to know what habits avert joy. I contact these habits joy killers. These are attitudes, behaviors, and action that will cease you from getting capable to practical experience the joy of the Lord in your life. The error that I assume a lot of us make with these joy killers is that we do not normally recognize when we’re carrying out them. On the other hand, as we take a short appear via the book of Philippians, we discover what’s killing our joy.


Our initially joy killer is unresolved conflict. I really like how Paul addresses this problem in Philippians when his rivals try to preach the gospel with the objective to harm him and make matters worse for him. Alternatively of increasing resentful and vindictive he chooses to stay constructive and maintain a point of view that aids him to maintain his joy. In Philippians 1:17-18 we study:

“The former proclaim Christ out of selfish ambition, not sincerely but considering to afflict me in my imprisonment. What then? Only that in each and every way, whether or not in pretense or truth, Christ is proclaimed, and in that I rejoice.” (Philippians 1:17-18 ESV)

Unresolved conflict steals our joy. Conflict will come but when we let it fester and turn into bitterness, prolonged anger, and resentment it prevents us from experiencing joy. Paul would have none of it. Did he have opponents? Yes. Did they disagree? Completely! Did their actions trigger him harm? You bet! That was their intention. Paul could have been petty and attempted to get them back, or get revenge, but He refused to enable their actions to handle his reactions.

In the face of all this conflict and hate, Paul says “what then?” Their actions can not take away his joy, his salvation, or his objective. People today may perhaps steal your funds they may perhaps waste your time, they may perhaps trigger you discomfort and even discomfort but all that is going to pass away anyway. Our life is but a vapor. Pauls’ eternal point of view permitted him to recognize something an individual took from him on this earth did not evaluate to what was his in heaven.

How do we overcome unresolved conflict in our lives?

1. The initially way we overcome unresolved conflict is to admit how we really feel. We want to comprehend that it is okay to be angry. There are so a lot of persons that are lacking joy due to the fact they are angry but do not want to admit it. The Bible tells us to, “not sin in your anger” (Ephesians four:26). It does not say “do not be angry.” If we can not admit our anger, we can under no circumstances course of action via it, and that is when it grows into bitterness, rage, and sin.

two. The second way we overcome unresolved conflict is to open up and communicate. 1st, we can pour out our hearts to God and let Him know how we really feel. Second, if you can, let your offender know how you really feel with the intention of reconciliation. People today will not normally know what you are considering and they may perhaps not recognize they offended you.

three. The final way we overcome unresolved conflict is to forgive. Forgiveness is the important that can unlock God’s joy in your life. Ephesians four:31-32 says:

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be place away from you, along with all malice. Be sort to one particular an additional, tenderhearted, forgiving one particular an additional, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians four:31-32 ESV)

We have joy due to the fact Christ forgave us and as we are named to be imitators of God, we are to forgive other individuals as effectively. Not as a pass to them (God is the final judge) but as the way that we discover healing and joy.


Our subsequent joy killer is comparison and envy.  As we continue in Philippians exactly where we left off with Paul’s opponents preaching to harm him, we discover they are carrying out it out of rivalry. They had been envious of Paul and believed to make a competitors of the Gospel.

They had been jealous of Paul’s ministry which does not even make any sense due to the fact if two persons are preaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ, they are on the similar group. If all the glory is going to God, exactly where is there area for envy?

This lets us know, these certain opponents may perhaps have preached the Gospel, but their hearts had been self-serving. So when they go out and see the accomplishment of Paul, they start off comparing themselves to him and grow to be envious.

Envy tends to make us really feel much less than, inadequate, and not adequate. How can you really feel joyful if you are feeling all these factors? You can not. So if we want to practical experience joy, we have to let go of comparing ourselves to other individuals.

How do we rid ourselves of unhealthy comparison and envy?

1. 1st, recognize what God has for you is for you. God only required one particular Paul, and He didn’t want any knockoffs. He only requires one particular you, but you can not do you if you are attempting to be like an individual else.

two. The second way to rid ourselves of comparison and envy is to set boundaries. We can do this by cease seeking at what everybody else is carrying out. We tempt ourselves to get upset about the highlights of someone’s life, and we do not even know the back story. How foolish Paul’s rivals had been to be jealous of him. They wanted his attain, but they didn’t want his suffering.  Would they be prepared to travel the road to Damascus? Almost certainly not. Paul wasn’t normally an apostle to the gentiles. He was after a zealous killer of Christians till the Lord stopped him in his tracts and named Paul to Himself.

But the Lord mentioned to him, “Go, for he is a selected instrument of mine to carry my name prior to the Gentiles and kings and the youngsters of Israel. For I will show him how considerably he have to endure for the sake of my name.” (Acts 9:15-16 ESV)

Do not be envious of an individual specially when you do not know what challenges they’ve faced.

three. The final way to stay away from envy is to comprehend that not everybody is named to do the similar issue. Even extra, no one particular individual is named to do anything. Romans 12:six-eight tends to make this clear:

“Having gifts that differ according to the grace offered to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith if service, in our serving the one particular who teaches, in his teaching the one particular who exhorts, in his exhortation the one particular who contributes, in generosity the one particular who leads, with zeal the one particular who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness”. (Romans 12:six-eight ESV)

To cease comparison and envy from stealing our joy, we have to seek God, not other individuals for our gifts and purposes.

God offers every individual distinctive gifts particular to what He has purposed for them to achieve. The only way to know what these gifts are and to fulfill the objective He has offered us is to seek Him, not how an individual else is carrying out it. When we grow to be clear on this, we have no cause to be jealous or envious and make extra area for joy in our lives.


Our subsequent joy killer is complaining. Paul explicitly tells the Philippians not to complain to sustain their joy.

“Do all factors devoid of grumbling or disputing, that you may perhaps be blameless and innocent, youngsters of God devoid of blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, amongst whom you shine as lights in the globe.” (Philippians two:14-15 ESV)

When you complain you appear no distinctive from the globe. Complaining is simple, but God calls believers to a greater normal when it comes to how we use our mouths. We ought to use our words to be thankful and to make up, not tear down. Complaining tears down due to the fact it only focuses on the unfavorable which prevents us from getting thankful.  You can not complain and be grateful at the similar time.

four. PRIDE

Our subsequent joy killer is pride. Focusing only on oneself is a certain way to shed your joy. We had been produced for neighborhood and discover joy in living beyond ourselves to meet the requires of other individuals. Alternatively, we’re tempted to perform and strive to achieve extra and extra. But Paul tells believers not to “do practically nothing out of selfish ambition” (Philippians two:three) and not to spot their self-assurance in the flesh (Philippians three:three) or what they can do on their personal.

When we attempt to do anything on our personal, we get frustrated and shed joy due to the fact:

1. We can not.

two. We had been produced for neighborhood.

three. God’s strength is extra substantial than our strength.

In two Corinthians 12:10 Paul says:

“For the sake of Christ, then, I am content material with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am robust.” (two Corinthians 12:10 ESV)

When we are prideful and assume we can do anything on our personal, we forfeit God’s strength in our lives.

five. Anxiousness

Our final joy killer is a major one particular: anxiousness. Paul tends to make this actually clear for the Philippians: Do not be anxious. This is not a suggestion or a superior concept. When it comes to anxiousness Paul’s tips is, just do not do it.

“Do not be anxious about something, but in anything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be produced recognized to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians four:six-7 ESV)

Anxiousness steals space in our hearts and thoughts exactly where God’s peace ought to be. In turn, it normally requires our joy. Alternatively of getting anxious we ought to be prayerful. Alternatively of worrying, we ought to be thankful. This is how we overcome anxiousness to reside the joyful life that is our in Christ.

Now I’d really like to hear from you, Beloved! Comment and let me know which joy killer do you struggle with the most and how has today’s post encouraged you to fight it. I can not want to see what you have to say in the comments.

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