A Parent’s Guide to the five Skeptics Who Want to Shame Your Children for Getting Christian


Getting blogged for more than six years now, I’ve received hundreds (and hundreds) of comments and emails from skeptics of Christianity. When in a although, I get one particular from a pleasant non-believer who is actually interested in discussing proof, asking affordable queries, and engaging in thoughtful discussion.

But that is the exception.

These who make contact with me commonly wield the tool of shaming to make their point—something extremely ironic provided how a great deal skeptics speak about the significance of proof.

To be clear, none of the non-believers I personally know would use shaming techniques in individual. But when folks are behind their screens, it brings down the “barrier” of civility, and faith conversations generally appear quite unique. You can see it on social media (even with pals who wouldn’t say such points in individual), comments on news articles, weblog posts—everywhere.

Children have to have to realize these emotion-laden shaming attempts they’ll encounter. Like so a great deal else, this is one thing parents can and really should prepare them for. Right here are the 5 most prevalent skeptics who want to shame your children for getting Christian.


1. The Science Thumper

Shame Tactic: Generating the kid think they do not have adequate scientific knowledge to realize that belief in God is unnecessary and silly.

The Science Thumper applies some notion of science to each and every and each and every conversation about Christianity, generating it the final word on any provided subject, and implying that science and Christianity are at irreconcilable odds.

For instance, in response to one particular of my weblog posts about the which means of life in a theistic worldview, a skeptic commented:

You have to have to study the mechanisms of replication, mutation, all-natural choice if you want to realize why life exists and is the way it is. If life and existence are as well incredible, astounding and astonishing to exist naturally…then how a great deal extra complicated is god [sic] for obtaining produced it? … Did you invent superman as a panacea answer for every thing you do not realize?

Concerns of faith and science are quite vital, but framing faith and science as a selection—one selection for the unsophisticated and one particular for these in the know—is a affordable and false dichotomy.

Parent Answer: Completely address faith and science subjects so children realize how shallow and unnuanced the Science Thumper’s claims are. See Speaking with Your Children about God for six chapters outlining the conversations parents have to have to have.


two. The Indoctrination Informer

Shame Tactic: Informing the kid that the ONLY purpose they think in Jesus is that they’ve been “indoctrinated” by their parents.

Indoctrination is a word that each Christians and skeptics use incorrect. Skeptics generally believe a kid has been indoctrinated any time they’ve been taught a provided religion is accurate. Christians generally believe indoctrination signifies teaching children Christian doctrine. These misunderstandings lead to conversations that sadly sound like this:

Skeptic to Christian parent: “You’re indoctrinating your children [by raising them in a Christian home]! Let them believe for themselves.”

Christian parent to skeptic: “You’re correct! I’m teaching my children Christian doctrine, and I’m proud of it!”

Each skeptics and Christians have to have to realize that indoctrination signifies teaching somebody to completely accept the concepts, opinions, and beliefs of a certain group and to not take into account other concepts, opinions, and beliefs. In other words, indoctrination is a challenge with how you teach somebody one thing. It is not inherently connected to any certain belief technique, even though religion is one particular form of belief technique exactly where indoctrination is doable.

Parent Answer: Intentionally introduce your children to skeptics’ challenges so they by no means really feel the have to have to query irrespective of whether you attempted to shelter them from other beliefs. For extra on the significance of this, see the post “If Your Children are Someday Shocked by the Claims of Skeptics, You Didn’t Do Your Job.”


three. The Miracle Mocker

Shame Tactic: Generating the kid really feel gullible for believing one thing that does not take place according to all-natural laws. 

Here’s a current comment a skeptic left on my weblog:

Just for the reason that some so-known as holy book says one thing is accurate does not make it accurate. Why do you think outlandish claims about a god [sic] speaking points into existence, or about a man getting swallowed by a fish for a handful of days and surviving, a worldwide flood [and ark] that match all of the animals in it and eight folks, or a story about a virgin obtaining pregnant? None of that tends to make sense, you do not have any proof that it occurred, but you nonetheless believe it is accurate. Why do you favor to think outlandish claims for the reason that they’re religious?

The logic right here is what’s “outlandish” (no one particular believes all miraculous claims just for the reason that they’re religious), but my point is not to critique the particulars of this certain comment. My point is to show how skeptics present miracles in a way that parades them as “obviously” absurd for the reason that (and by definition!), they do not adhere to the course of nature.

Parent Answer: Teach children the fundamental logic that if God exists, miracles are doable, and if God does not exist, miracles are not doable (for extra on this, see chapter 24 in Maintaining Your Children on God’s Side). This brings the query of miracles back to the underlying query of the proof for God’s existence so children realize that the individual claiming miracles are silly is just presupposing God does not exist.  


four. The Self-Enough Scoffer

Shame Tactic: Boasting that the skeptic does not “need” God—and implying that any person who does has an inferior have to have for an emotional crutch to get by means of life.  

Oftentimes, when ex-Christians recount their deconversion story, they conclude with a glib comment of how they moved on for the reason that they no longer “needed” God. The subtly condescending implication, of course, is that these who think in God do so for the reason that they do not have the emotional sources to make it by means of life admitting that we reside in a universe of pitiless indifference.

This is a strange conclusion that betrays a lack of deeper insight.

If God exists, we have to have Him. All points have been produced by means of and for Him He is the Supply and sustainer of every thing by definition. Hence, if God exists, it is not a selection to have to have Him…it’s just a reality that we do.

If God does not exist, we do not have to have Him. We can’t have to have Him. We can’t have to have one thing that does not exist.

In other words, saying that you do not have to have God any longer is a nonsensical conclusion. Of course you do not have to have God if He does not exist. And if He does exist, you cannot pick to not have to have Him.

What this type of statement betrays, consequently, is that the skeptic initially believed in God primarily based on felt requires (desires) rather than on the conviction that He actually exists. When they realized they didn’t have to have to think in God to satisfy these felt requires, they just eliminated Him from the image and met these requires in other methods.

Parent Answer: Be mindful of assisting children develop a faith primarily based on the conviction of God’s existence and the truth of Christianity—not on felt requires for points like getting delighted, getting a superior individual, or locating which means in life. In other words, if any person ever asks your kid why they’re a Christian, you really should want their response to be, “Because Christianity is accurate!” For extra on escaping the felt have to have pattern, see the post “Do Your Children Know Why They Need to have God?


five. The Tolerance Enforcer

Shame Tactic: Generating the kid really feel like they are unloving and hateful for taking a biblical stance that does not approve of all possibilities as morally acceptable.

In a spectacular show of irony, the Tolerance Enforcer shames children into believing that they need to be horrible folks for disagreeing with non-believers on the morality of several troubles. By labeling children hateful and unloving rather than thoughtfully discussing the proof for the truth of the underlying worldviews that create divergent moral conclusions, they rely on purely emotional attacks. Children without the need of an intellectual foundation for the Christian worldview are left feeling that they need to be incorrect about the truth of their faith.

Parent Answer: Assistance children realize the irony of a individual championing tolerance who will not tolerate Christian beliefs without the need of labeling disagreement hateful. Then demonstrate how Christians and non-Christians will necessarily disagree on moral troubles for the reason that we have a unique supply of authority—the Bible. Here’s an instance.


In all of these situations, don’t forget that shame, by definition, is “a painful emotion triggered by a robust sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness or disgrace.” In other words, the root of shame is feeling inadequate.

In order for our children to really feel (extra than) sufficient when they encounter shaming attempts, they have to have to have the deep conviction that what they think is actually accurate. Only then will they be in a position to completely see these shame techniques for what they are—shallow and baseless emotional attacks—and be in a position to say confidently with the apostle Paul, “I am not ashamed of the gospel, for the reason that it is the energy of God that brings salvation to absolutely everyone who believes” (Romans 1:16).


Initially published at str.org. 


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