What My Toddler Taught Me about Getting a Fussy Eater! (Spiritually Speaking)


Do you know a fussy eater?  Maybe you are a single.

I couldn’t wait till my son, Timothy, was old adequate to start off consuming strong mealseven if strong meals consisted of sloppy child rice. Prior to that moment, I had endured months of him staring into my mouth just about every time I ate. He would appear at me in such a way to show what he was pondering, “Why cannot I have some?” His large, brown eyes by no means failed to make me really feel guilty.

When the day came that he could consume solids, he took to it ideal away. Promptly, he wanted to hold the spoon himself and place the rice into his mouth. He didn’t even dribble a bit (I consider he believed he had waited so extended, he had far better not waste any). As the days progressed, so did his consuming capabilities. He ate quite a great deal something we presented him. 1 of his favourite items to do was choose tomatoes from the greenhouse and consume them ideal away.

Then a single day, Timothy decided on his favourite foods. He determined that he no longer wanted to consume what was place in front of him but rather what he wanted to consume ONLY what he wanted to consume.

The technical term for this behaviour which peaks among the ages of two and six is meals neophobia. In January 2016 study from a journal referred to as Appetite showed out of 120 youngsters aged 3 to eleven, an general 39% have been identified as picky eaters at some point. Personally, I consider the percentage is far greater.

As I was reflecting on Timothy’s consuming habits, I wondered how normally I’d approached my spiritual diet plan the very same way.

Considerably like physical meals, spiritually, I am inclined to digest the items which are to my taste and reject the components I dislike. I have a tendency to lean towards soft and sweet rather than chewy and nutritious. When I study a chapter from the Bible, I normally locate myself like a kid on Christmas, consuming what I take pleasure in whilst avoiding the brussels sprouts.

3 Factors Why We Turn into Picky Eaters

According to the pros, there are 3 important factors why youngsters turn into picky eaters: worry, independence and boredom.


The most important cause youngsters turn into fussy eaters is due to the fact they are scared that meals may possibly hurt them. Take into account the time ahead of supermarkets existed. We had to hunt and collect our meals in the wild. In that sort of atmosphere, we had to know which foods have been protected to consume and which foods would kill us.

These days, we do not endure from the very same intense (unless of course, you determine to go on holidays with Bear Grylls). Nonetheless, we nonetheless encounter pleasure or displeasure when we place meals into our mouths. Picture consuming a sweet bit of fudge or a red hot chilli pepper. Each are quite unique tastes, and without the need of understanding or encounter, there is no way of realizing what encounter you will acquire. How confident would you be to consume blindfolded? This is how a kid feels when provided new meals for the initial time.

Worry is normally a larger motivator than pleasure. For instance, consider there are two unmarked boxes, a single with a cheque for a thousand dollars and a further with a deadly scorpion. Most people today would not take the threat to place their hands in either box, even for the likelihood of the pleasure of winning a thousand dollars.

Along with the worry of the unknown, there is also the worry of the recognized. As adults, if we do not like anything, we basically do not consume it but consider if an individual forced you to consume your least favourite meals. Dr Gillian Harris, a senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Birmingham, asked, “What is going by way of your thoughtsdisgust? And if I attempted to make you consume your horror mealsanxiousness and then worry.”

So what does this appear like when it comes to reading God’s Word?

Typically I locate myself wanting to remain inside the components of the Bible that I am most comfy. For instance, a lot of Christians are delighted reading the Gospels and the Sunday college stories, “Noah and the Ark,” “Samson,” and “Joseph and His Technicolor Dream Coat.” Even so, they opt for to remain out of the extra complicated passages and Old Testament prophecies. We like to stick with what we know. The Hebrew church had a related difficulty. They became content material with drinking milk and would not move on to strong spiritual meals.

“We have a great deal to say about this, but it is really hard to make it clear to you due to the fact you no longer attempt to fully grasp. In truth, although by this time you ought to be teachers, you require an individual to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all more than once more. You require milk, not strong meals! Any individual who lives on milk, getting nonetheless an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But strong meals is for the mature, who by continuous use have educated themselves to distinguish very good from evil.”   Hebrews five:11-14

Maybe we require to wean ourselves off spiritual milk and move onto solids.

Timothy and I consuming toast


A further cause why youngsters normally reject meals provided by their parents is that they want to show their independence. To commence with, Timothy was extra than delighted to be fed with a spoon, but then all of a sudden, he hated it. He wanted to hold the spoon himself. In truth, he would normally rather not consume than be helped. Now, this was not a difficulty at all when it came to finger foods, but when it came to consuming breakfast cereal, properly, let’s just say the phrase, “Don’t cry more than spilt milk,” didn’t sound so funny any longer.

As parents, we attempt every thing. The choo-choo train coming by way of the tunnel. The aeroplane flying in the sky, but NO, NO. That tunnel is bricked up and staying shut.

We normally get in touch with this time “the terrible twos.” While, youngsters will normally commence to show their independence extended ahead of they are two-years-old. Children’s developing independence shows itself in a range of contexts beyond consuming. They want to opt for their personal garments, determine which toy to play with, stroll by themselves, and so on. On some days, toddlers want support, but on the subsequent, they refuse it.

When youngsters demonstrate their independence, it is their way of saying, “I know what is most effective for me.” Kids do not care about the nutritional worth of foods. They do not care about consuming a balanced diet plan. They only want to consume the meals that provides them immediate pleasure.

Yummy yummy ice-cream – a single is by no means adequate

Like youngsters, we have a tendency to refuse to consume something that is not suited to our tastes. I could list all the factors why sugar is undesirable for you, but in all likelihood, if I mention cakes, ice cream and chocolates, it will only make you crave them. If you are extra of a savoury particular person, I could speak about the fat and salt in crisps, sausage rolls, and pork pies. But once more, whilst you may possibly know that they are not very good for you, you will nonetheless crave them anyway.

Equally, I could speak about the healthier positive aspects of tofu or how raw cabbage and spinach shakes will decrease your acidic level and offer you with loads of micronutrients. But it is most likely not going to encourage you to go out and drink a single.

How does this translate into spiritual meals? Effectively, we locate ourselves only reading the items that we take pleasure in and ignoring the items that we dislike or do not match into our belief program.

“Preach the word be ready in season and out of season appropriate, rebuke and encourage—with good patience and cautious instruction.   For the time will come when people today will not place up with sound doctrine. Alternatively, to suit their personal desires, they will collect about them a good quantity of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.” – two Timothy four:two-three

What does this appear like in its simplest type? It suggests that we study about God’s appreciate but not his holiness. It suggests that we study about the blessings of God but not about the disciplines of God. Typically we attempt to choose and opt for verses from the Bible to help our positions on anything. Our motivation in undertaking so is that we want to run our personal lives, and we do not want God to interfere. This is a quite unsafe and ungodly way. The life of the believer is a single of dependencenot independence.


A further cause why youngsters normally reject meals is due to the fact they are bored of it (sorry parents but it is accurate). As parents we sooner or later determine it is not worth a battle every meal time and so choose the straightforward alternative of just cooking foods that our kid likes. Then, to our surprise, they start off rejecting that meals also. The cause? They are tired of consuming it. There are only so a lot of chicken nuggets any a single kid can consume.

My grandfather generally told me, “Don’t inform your nan you like something due to the fact if you do, you will be stuck with it forever.” He would then go on to inform the story of how forty years prior, he had told my nan that he enjoyed the ham, potatoes, and parsley sauce she produced for tea a single Wednesday evening and as a outcome had been left consuming it just about every Wednesday evening for the rest of her life.

Spiritually speaking, as sad as it is to admit, we can turn into bored with God’s Word. We scan more than the items familiar to us. We switch off our consideration through the Sunday Service and consider to ourselves, “I’ve heard this ahead of.” This was normally my Sunday College encounter as I would hear the very same stories year just after year with the very same application. 1 survey showed that 75% of Sunday preaching is from the New Testament. Could it be that we do not have a balanced spiritual diet plan?

I appreciate the passion that this psalmist had for Scripture:

“I rejoice in following your statutes as a single rejoices in good riches. I meditate on your precepts and take into account your approaches. I delight in your decrees I will not neglect your word. Be very good to your servant whilst I reside, that I may possibly obey your word. Open my eyes that I may possibly see great items in your law. I am a stranger on earth do not hide your commands from me. My soul is consumed with longing for your laws at all instances.”  – Psalm 119:14-20

There is no boredom in these verses. If you are not rejoicing as you study Scripture, possibly you require to challenge oneself. Study new passages of the Bible. Attempt a devotional or reading strategy. Study commentaries from unique authors and pastors. Discover a new Bible study process.

“Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not reside on bread alone, but on just about every word that comes from the mouth of God.’”” – Matthew four:four

Matthew four:four is a familiar passage to me, but I want to concentrate on a single word: “every.” Man shall not reside on bread alone, but on Each word. Just as we require a balanced physical diet plan, we require to balance our spiritual diet plan as properly. We cannot just reside on SOME words. We require just about every word that comes from the mouth of God.


Has your kid taught you any lesson in regards to your partnership with God or Scripture?

What strategies can you give to support us cease becoming spiritually fussy eaters?


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