Pastor John Gray addresses cheating rumors on ‘The Real,’ says he only had an ’emotional affair’


Many Christian News and secular publications made speculations around the sermon posted on YouTube, where Gray says that no one knew what was happening with him and his wife behind closed doors.

“We had to keep smiling because even though we were struggling,” Gray reveals. “Even though I was failing as a husband, I was already in front of the people and the people can’t really receive my brokenness because where do leaders go when they belled? So I had to bleed alone. And what’s strange is I traveled the whole world and the Holy Ghost showed up and people got saved me and my wife just kept smiling and nobody knew we were getting ready to get a divorce. Because as long as I kept producing, nobody cared what was happening at home.”

He then added “I started listening to the wrong voices and let some people get too close. She found out and she set it off just like a good wife should.”

In typical fashion, Aventer took to Instagram and twitter early hours of Monday where she expressed her feelings by saying;

“Everyone else has had their moment to post what they think they know. We share from our heart and clarify the REAL on @therealdaytime this morning at 11a.m. EST. Oh yeah!!! Soooooo excited……”

Did John Gray cheat on his wife?

Pastor John Gray indeed set the record straight on the daytime talk show “The Real” on Monday with his wife, Aventer, rejecting rumors that he was unfaithful to his wife but admitting he had an “emotional affair” with someone.

Co-host Adrienne Bailon asked Gray directly if he stepped out of his marriage and had an affair.

“The answer is no, I didn’t,” Gray responded. His wife, who sat next to him, immediately applauded.

Gray recently became pastor of Relentless Church in Greenville, South Carolina, after years of preaching at Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church in Houston, Texas. He had come under much criticism for gifting his wife with a $200,000 Lamborghini for their eight-year anniversary just months after he confessed to listening to “voices” that lured him away and almost caused the couple to get a divorce.

He explained on Monday, “Over a year ago, my wife and I were in a very difficult place in our marriage, and in that time, I began to converse with someone — other than a counselor, other than a pastoral leader, which is where I should have taken my issues and challenges — and began to converse, and I was even in the presence of that person one time. But being in the presence of someone is not the same as sleeping with them. I did not sleep with anyone.”

He further went on to say “it was wrong” and is taking responsibility for sharing things about his marriage with anyone other than his wife or counselor. He also went on to address rumors of an alleged love child.

Does Pastor John Gray have a lovechild?

“There’s no baby, none of that,” he said. “It’s important for me to take responsibility for the areas where I did come up short. Sharing things about my marriage, outside of my wife and outside of trusted counselors, is an emotional affair. It was wrong. I take responsibility for that. But I will not take responsibility for that which I did not do.”

Their address has been received with mixed emotions with some still attacking them about the “lavish” expenditure (calling it a bribe), while others feel it was all for TV ratings for their OWN show, and others say they do not feel that was the whole truth to the matter.


“Would be interesting to hear what the other woman has to say. This whole thing doesn’t pass the honesty or smell test.”

Whatever your thoughts are on this matter, our question is; do you think the church is guilty of putting people on a pedestal and then rejecting them when their true flawed nature is exposed? Should we be quick to dispose of our brothers and sisters when they make mistakes or should we not be gentle and build them up as God’s word tell us:

Galatians 6:1

Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.

This also brings up the age old question, would you divorce your spouse just because they cheated on you or do you forgive them because of the vows you took before God?

Let us know your thoughts in the comments!



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